Attention, unlike publicity, is not always positive. When seeking to rekindle a relationship with a former partner, one needs to make sure they take the right steps, not rush things or present a view of themselves leading to a negative response. Knowing what not to do can be as important as knowing the correct things to do. Unfortunately, a misstep usually leads to a fiery end of a potential future. Understanding both sides is critical.
In the mind, several of these actions sound like the right thing do. They may be what one wants for themselves or sound smaller in scale when thinking of them. One seeking this sort of attention must understand their heads are not where these actions take place. Things blowing up in the world make creating and maintaining a connection infinitely harder.
Desperate Contact: An ex receiving multiple phone calls and texts will believe one has not moved forward. Even if exercising more control than one feels, the person doing the contacting will long for responses. More feels better. Most feels ideal. To get that response, they will email, call and text several times in an hour presenting the appearance of remaining hung up on the ex.
Overly Grand Gestures: An act disproportionate to the nature of the defunct relationship applies pressure to an ex. They will wonder why the person they no longer have a romantic connection with is going out of their way to execute multi tiered presentations. Resisting this urge challenges the mettle of the gift giver. Being strong will help in the long run.
Reactions to Life Changes: One tends to scramble when there is some sort of change within the life of a an ex fearing the loss of a terminated relationship. Hearing about an ex dating again, moving to a new city or deciding to make another major life change may cause one to act out of fear. It is key to quell those desires and respond from a place of genuine care for the other person.
In some ways, these actions prove easier and harder at the same time as they fly in the face of a natural response. Going slow, not being concerned about the outcome and caring for the other person means tamping down the first reaction. Everyone tends to act quickly. Let’s see how slow reactions benefit in the long run.
Communicate Gently: Warm and rare contact keeps one in their ex’s life without being an intrusion or coming off as too desperate. An occasion check in let’s the former partner decide how much they want to share.
Something Sweet: Remembering an important date or accomplishment with a tiny gift will show provide a window into one’s care for the other person. They will feel seen. It is important to keep the gesture to something small preventing mounting pressure.
Taking Care: An ex will pay attention of one takes steps to improve themselves physically, emotionally and spiritually. By acting in this way, a healthier and balanced self develop as a net benefit with the side benefit of a potential rekindling of romance.
The most difficult thing is resisting the urge to act impulsively. It can be helpful to remember attention for the sake of attention should never be sought. Getting a positive response opens the door to a possible returning romantic relation and an ongoing friendship. Hope for the best and respond in the best way for oneself and your ex.